How to be good friends with an infertile

This one is especially for family and friends wanting to be helpful and not another source of stress for a woman or couple dealing with infertility.

Infertiles come in different flavors.
1. Your eternal optimist / newbie / completely uninvolved infertile …
2. Your longer term / highly involved infertile …
3. Then you get the older timers, who’ve been doing this so long it just becomes part of who they are. …