Conflicting expert opinions – how do I know who’s right?

So, you finally plucked up the courage to go for a second opinion, and guess what – now you have two or more well-qualified and plausible experts with compelling arguments telling you to do the exact opposite. Who should you trust? Who’s more credible? And, can’t we just rely on the scientific literature to give us the answers? […]

How do we know when to move on?

“Moving on” can mean a lot of different things: ditching IVF and going natural, moving to donor eggs, donor sperm, donor embryos, adoption, fostering, child-free living, accepting a smaller family than you hoped for … How do we know when it’s time to move on to the next option? And, when should we (and when should we NOT) be making those choices? In this post, I share a bit of my own story from the very lowest points of my ttc journey, how I weighed up the different scenarios of whether the journey would end in failure or end in success, what would have made me move onto another option, how I resisted making big decisions in my darkest hours, etc. […]

Our IVF/IUI/TI cycle just failed … What should we be asking at the review?

After all that anxiety, fear, hope and expectation, a failed cycle is just devastating. You’re booked for a review appointment with your specialist – but what should you be asking about now? The most important question, of course, is WHY your cycle failed. There could be many possible explanations, some of which are just guesses and some of which are backed by concrete evidence or could be investigated further. […]

What are the main IVF protocols used in NZ?

Basically there are three main protocols used by NZ clinics (plus a few variations, which I’ll try to add later): 1. The ‘long’ protocol (default for young women and those with normal FSH; not generally used on high FSHers unless they are quite young, and seldom on anyone over 40 because it can easily oversuppress those with diminished ovarian reserve). 2. … […]